Happy Mercury Retrograde Everyone!
We are currently knee deep in the current Mercury Retrograde in Cancer! If you are feeling the Mercury Retrograde blues it might be time to get my audio series on this current cycle to help guide you through this retro Cancer vibe! The retrograde began on June 26th and lasts until July 20th so we still have quite a ways to go with this alchemy. You can check out all that I cover in this audio series 'Mercury Retrograde in Cancer-Healing Your Emotional Roots' below the following article.
So many themes have been animating around this current cycle and one that I've really noticed is abandonment issues being triggered. We all have fears of abandonment right? And given the fact this Cancerian archetypal cycle is connected deeply to our childhood, family, and past imprinting from both -- abandonment seems like a 'no-brainer' as a theme surfacing in folks at this time.
That said one of the best ways our abandonment issues are brought to the surface is through rejection. We've all experience it and will again! And each time we get rejected (whether by a love interest, spouse, friend, family member, or employer) it seems to open up a direct path to our abandonment pain. Which really is a gift if we choose to use rejection that way! Let's investigate why...
The Gifts of Rejection
As we begin to explore the gifts of rejection let's first define rejection for the purposes of this newsletter. Essentially rejection is getting a 'NO' from life. We've all experienced this many many times and it always seems to suck right?
Not only does it 'suck' it can be devastating and gut wrenching. I would have to say that often rejection takes us to our core wounds like nothing else can. But why does rejection have this kind of power?
I want you to think of a time when you were rejected or told 'no', bring it up in your mind very clearly. Once you've got that memory online begin to explore what that rejection brought up for you.
First, did it show you how you may have been 'rejecting' parts of yourself? I see that as the most obvious insight most folks connect to. And I would say that the usefulness of considering how we may be mirrored with self-rejection via rejection from others is the first gift of rejection. Yet, I have found there is something deeper on offer. Keep that memory of rejection present and let's go a little deeper...
The Main Gift of Rejection is How We 'Fill in the Gap'
Pause for a moment and reflect on the rejection memory I had you retrieve. Now ask yourself "When I was rejected, what emotional feelings came up for me specifically?" Got those feelings present? Now ask, 'What story did I create as to why I was rejected?'
I sense that when we are rejected it opens up a gap in us where we begin to question ourselves. And then we tend to immediately fill in that gap with something and that 'something' is usually a shame-based story of unworthiness.
For example, we begin to ask, 'Why did they reject me? Why didn't I get that job? What's wrong with me? Why won't that person requite my feelings for them? Am I not sexy, smart, handsome, healed, enlightened, worthy...ENOUGH YET? Haven't I cleared enough issues and done enough work on myself? And herein lies the gift!
Rejection acts like a cosmic homeopathy. It triggers our system with something reminiscent of our core sense of abandonment and shame bringing that core stuff to the surface of awareness for healing. It helps us meet our core wounding in a NY minute. In that minute we are gifted with an exquisite opportunity to make contact with our wounded beliefs about ourselves and love ourselves more.
We get to explore our fears of abandonment and sense of worthlessness. We get to dialogue with our shame. And if we are willing to look at this territory in ourselves with unconditional perception, we will see that we also have feelings of rejection regarding God. We then get to explore our unconscious shame based projections onto the Divine and heal that relationship too.
So what story have you filled in the gap with when you have been rejected? What did you assume about yourself and others as to why you were rejected or told 'no'? What did you assume about the Divine? Is God a relentless taskmaster that you must please in order to finally get a 'yes'? Or is the Divine an unconditionally present and loving force in your life, only giving you 'no's' when it serves your growth and the highest good of all?
Often times, when rejected, we fail to fill in the gap with the truth of why we got a 'no'. Instead we default to the lies born out of our childhood neglect, abuse, parental abandonment, and indoctrinated shame based beliefs about a God we have to earn love from because of our inborn 'original sin' (what a bunch of B.S.!! grrrr). We also mistake someone telling us 'no' for God telling us 'no'. As if a one mere mortal were our sole source of opportunities to get a 'yes'!
Rarely do we realize the beauty, gift, and opportunity present when someone refuses to meet a need or leaves us at the 'altar of love'. Indeed there are many opportunities available when we don't get what we want - when we are simply told 'no'. If the gift is to emotionally connect with your past shame and abandonment so you can make conscious the stories you believe about yourself -- are you in? No, I mean it...ARE YOU IN?
That brings me to my closing thoughts regarding the gifts of rejection that I'll offer as a few questions: What strategies do you use to avoid dealing with rejection in the first place? Have you been driven to codependently manage others so they won't leave you/reject you? Are you driven by perfectionism so no one can reject your flawlessness? Do you people please and shape shift so everyone likes you? Are you constantly trying to be a 'good' person so the Divine doesn't send its raging wrath your way or abandon you?
Ah yes, rejection indeed is a gift that keeps on giving. Whether it's tracking your reactive strategies to avoid it, or using the experience of it to explore your deeper wounds and claim your awesomeness; my prayer is that you'll always stay open to the gifts of rejection.
Speaking of which, take a moment and review the MR in Cancer audio series below to see if it's a gift you'd like to give yourself right now. Much love and more insights coming soon...
Intuitive Life Strategist, Coach, Counselor, and Archetypal Astrologer
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Why do all emotional roads lead to the vulnerability of abandonment and how can we walk them?
During this three-part 225 minute podcast Robert covers in enormous depth the Cancer pattern and how it's connected to other current active archetypal cycles. All of this is done 'Ohotto' style illuminating why it's essential to consciously engage this powerful Mercury Retrograde. With his classic words of wisdom on how to use the energy and timing of this powerful archetypal process, Robert will gift you with insights that empower, transform, and stay with you for the rest of your life.
-Why it's essential to understand/redefine the archetypes of 'Home' and 'Family' during this cycle
-How the MR in Cancer connects to the larger archetypal cycles of other planets
-Exact dates and timing of this cycle and how to use them
-The importance of connecting with your emotional sense of origin in this life
-How emotional legacies are passed down via the family line and drive self-sabotaging patterns
-Exploring and shifting your 'Cancer' themed defense strategies that keep from establishing emotional connections in your life
-How the current Mercury Retrograde brings a 'disorganization' phase to undo reactive emotional patterning so that 'reorganization' can happen around emotional needs getting met
-Essential homework to engage after each session of the audio series to help you use the power of this cycle
-How to release emotional burdens
-The difference between a 'Longing' and a 'Shadow Need'
-Where Shadow Needs come from and how bring them into the light
-Understanding and redefining 'childhood' from an archetypal perspective that helps you heal
-Why this Mercury Retrograde demands remembering your past and emotionally owning your 'Origin Story'
-The price of not emotionally connecting to our human 'Origin Story'
-Embracing the personal level of emotional experience so our authentic needs get met
-The difference between differentiating and disassociating from our past
-The danger of emotionally disassociating from our past
-How we psychically inherit the unmet needs of our parents
-Using the Child Archetype to identify and track the pain of our parents
-Claiming your Origin Story!
-Why this Mercury Retrograde is taking us back to our emotional roots
-Multiple exercises and emotionally provocative questions to facilitate a dialogue with your Soul's Longings
-Engaging a new understanding of 'Home, Tribe, and Family'
-What it means to create your own sense of 'Home' in your life
-Why all roads lead to the vulnerability of abandonment
-How to break the 'Lonely Cancer Emotional Circuit'
-What emotionally engaging Spirituality really means
-The shift of Tribe as Community
-Emotional Nourishment vs. Emotional Dependency
-Surrendering to the wisdom of your Soul Contract
-How to be unconditionally emotionally present for yourself
-Ways to find nourishing connections with everyone
-How nourishment comes from living in the center of your deepest values
-Why it's essential to embrace the dual truth of your true origins
-How not being home for yourself has shaped your loving of others
-Why this Mercury Retrograde asks you to evaluate if you are only there for yourself when it's convenient
-Deep exploration of your Child Archetype and how to self-parent
-Moving beyond self-abandonment
-Transforming Family Fate
-How to engage the Cosmic/Divine intention of this Retrograde process and work with it to uncover your own 'Mercury Retrograde Message'!
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